No.40375
All you really can do in that situation is offer up your time to listen to them.
No.40379
Hi
I come to this from mostly the other direction, where I'm the one that's usually crying to someone else even though they can't do anything about it. I can only tell you what works and doesn't work for me. But this is also influenced by my own experience on the receiving end too.
I don't like it when it feels like my fren is just repeating their lines or saying it like they're on autopilot. It makes their words feel insincere or like it's just a knee jerk response without really paying attention.
I like it best when they say a few words, mainly to just to let me know they're still there while I'm decompressing. Once the worst of it is over and I've quieted, I like if they politely ask a few pointed questions that help me think about the issue more critically, it helps to mentally digest things.
Give them your attention, you have theirs.
Give them your time, let them grow in their own time in return.
Be polite and patient.
None of this means you have to say much at all, if what you're saying feels hollow to you, it will feel hollow to them too. Sometimes it can be nice to know that someone is there with you, so just sitting online quietly together once things have slowed can be sufficient (as long as you mention that to them first).
And always make sure you tell them that they're your fren. (very important part)
I hope that helps.
sorry for my talk.
bye bye nenpo!
No.40425
thanks friends, i appreciate the advice<3